It seems I have reached a crossroad for this website and its history has nearly everything to do with that.
Much is made of single fathers. Most of it not very good. For many, single dads are lazy, selfish, and by and large, insignificant. Some of this criticism is justly earned. My inbox is full of examples;
Why is it some men don’t want their own children but are willing to raise another woman’s kids? This was the question asked by a confused, frustrated, and justifiably angry mother. One can hear and appreciate her resentment. Why does this father love another’s, but abandons his own? It is a worthy question, and I will attempt an equal response.
Our children are now reaching the age where talks about romance have gone from the theoretical to the practical. We are past the ‘what is most important in a person’ discussion and the ‘what a person does means more than what they say’ conversation.
On paper, we did nearly everything right. We knew each other almost four months before meeting and introducing the kids. Dated for three years, were engaged for another two, and never once considered living together during that time.
What still amazes me most about divorce is how two people, once committing to love, honor, and cherish each other till death do part, almost overnight wishes to see that qualifier become a reality. Well, maybe not technically dead, but at least out of the way, vanished, or forgotten.
To understand this, I should start from the beginning.