What still amazes me most about divorce is how two people, once committing to love, honor, and cherish each other till death do part, almost overnight wishes to see that qualifier become a reality. Well, maybe not technically dead, but at least out of the way, vanished, or forgotten.
For single parents, it can be a moment of heavenly exhilaration and earthly anxiety. After what seemed only fantasy, hope is rekindled that love is not just for everybody else. Not all guys are losers, nor every woman crazy. Gone is the fear of dying alone.
I receive lots of emails from women, many without children, asking questions about dating single dads. The common problem is meeting his children – specifically, why won’t he let her meet them, why he avoids, or goes hot and cold, about meeting them, and similar. It seems for many of these women, meeting his kids is a really big deal.
If you’re a divorced parent, there’s a good chance your life is often unbalanced, confused, and out of harmony. You perhaps live as a contradiction and even a hypocrite. At the same time, your life feels strengthened, focused, and contented. You live with self-acceptance, and at times, in truth.