(This article contains extreme profanity, please be advised)
In all the world is there anything more dehumanizing than the ‘kids table’? That act of familial segregation matched in its totality only by the Lord Almighty’s separation of the tribes during the building the Babylon tower.
My son will make some woman very happy. At ten he has a sensitivity and openness few other boys his age have attained, and most never will. He shares, if he trusts you, whatever is on his mind, without embarrassment, and never holding back.
The pitfalls of dating as divorced parents are well documented. But how to date as a one is regularly ignored. We get so caught up in attempting to find the who, looking for the right mix of partner AND parent, that we may become drunk on romantic bliss when we find him or her, forgetting that how we should date this person is no less important.
In the latest episode of Fatherhood Wide Open with father and blogger Adam Rust we discuss the idea; Does Fatherhood Make Us Better Men? I posed this question after reading his article in response to a Time story about couples purposefully choosing to abandon parenthood, opting instead to luxuriate in the carefree waters of a D.I.N.K. lifestyle – Dual Income No Kids.
If we want to take this job of parenting with any hope of seriousness we must accept this fact. No matter how well intentioned, dedicated, and focused we are, our children’s clearest moments and brightest memories, those with the most lasting influence, good or bad, will likely happen during times we would consider least important.
Shortly after I started this website I wrote an article that remains one of the most clicked, most read, most shared. In that post, A Manifesto On Absent Fathers, I take behind the woodshed single and divorced dads who abandon their financial responsibilities, then offer up an extra-hot serving of contempt for the ones who walk away from their kids altogether. In the concluding paragraphs of that piece I write,