In the first year of our blending family, the Queen and I downplayed the ‘blending’ part. But in truth, we began long before the ‘I do.’ We made a commitment early on never to use ‘step kids.’ instead, it would be ‘our kids.’
For single parents, it can be a moment of heavenly exhilaration and earthly anxiety. After what seemed only fantasy, hope is rekindled that love is not just for everybody else. Not all guys are losers, nor every woman crazy. Gone is the fear of dying alone.
I receive lots of emails from women, many without children, asking questions about dating single dads. The common problem is meeting his children – specifically, why won’t he let her meet them, why he avoids, or goes hot and cold, about meeting them, and similar. It seems for many of these women, meeting his kids is a really big deal.
The Queen and I first met at a bar. It’s not something we advertise. Similar stories usually end in hook ups and poorly.