My past struggles with, and addiction to, pornography have been detailed in other essays. There was a period when I couldn’t go a day without a hit. But even at the darkest point of my dependency, I could still see the depravity of it all.
There’s a saying I routinely use on my kids and employees, ‘Perception is reality.’ In other words, how someone sees the world is how the world really is, at least to them, and whose reality everyone else must cope. Granted, that perception might be distorted or entirely wrong, but it’s real until that perception is changed.
“What has he done, though?…He looked at me with a cold, severe expression. Of course that is something indefinable, impalpable, but it has never been so before, and that glance means a great deal,” she thought. “That glance shows the beginning of indifference.” – Anna Karenina
She was attractive with a social personality, yet possessed a subtlety that led me to believe hers had been a life of frequent disappointment. I considered this a tempting quality; a challenge frankly, to be the first and perhaps only man who wouldn’t let her down.
In spring of this year the Queen and I were blessed with a vacation through Italy and Greece. This was her first experience in Europe and I hadn’t been in well over a decade. One of our many preparations for the trip was learning about the cultures of the places we would be visiting. How is tipping considered at restaurants in Rome?