Rearview Roadkill: Relationships

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  Our chemical romance

    “Better living through chemistry.” Those were the words she used; hijacked from a Madison Avenue attempt at touting the benefits of modern science and big business, she oversold the phrase the same way suburban moms brag about their dependence on a good Cabernet; as if both were a toast to feminine independence. I wasn’t [...]

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  How to have an affair in 5 easy steps

  Sex scandals are cultural catnip. We feed on them like drugs perpetually jonesing for the next hit, then reminded of the foul taste we just as passionately spew them out. The most titillating of these carnal transgressions is marital infidelity, or as I rather like-  the Old Testament sin of adultery. A castle industry has [...]

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  Infidelity by degrees

  Cultural norms claim that infidelity is merely about sex. So long as it stays away from the bedroom we remain honorable. But what about our thoughts? Can what we think and feel be just as damaging to our relationship as an affair?

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  The worst financial mistake couples make before spending a dime

  For almost five years I’ve served as a financial advisor at my church. Individuals, but primarily couples, who have reached the edge of their fiscal cliffs take the rather bold and often humbling step towards fixing their monetary lives by reaching out to someone for help.  I’ve found that it usually takes a catastrophic event, [...]

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  The currency of relationships

  There’s a principle found at the center of all our relationships; and surprisingly it’s a fact we so often take for granted it’s unwittingly disregarded out of stale indifference. It’s why we fall in love and why we fall out. It’s why one may turn from best friend to forgotten acquaintance. It’s why we swear [...]

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  Down the isle kicking and screaming

  The death of a marriage, much like the death of any living thing of infinite value, demands a post mortem; the process whereby we agonizingly poke, prod, and dissect the remains in search of the particular agency which prompted its demise. If done soberly and thoroughly, this process quite often results in those sought after [...]

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  The end of chivalry

  I grew up around lots of women. On my mother’s side the woman to man ratio was over two to one. Having a mother who was stay at home during my formative years meant most of my days were spent in the shade of her and the other heroines of our family. As such I [...]

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